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Disclaimer: These things do not apply to everyone, just my perception on things and experience.
Alright, so lets break this down to segments.
1. The right guy. (who is he, where to find him)
2. What if he is ALMOST the right guy.
3. You got him.
4. He has issues
5. Want to fix him?
6. He doesn't understand.
7. Should I break up?
8. He is nice again!
9. He is really nice!
10. Can I keep him?
1. 1. The right guy. (who is he, where to find him)
So, women often have a fairytale concept of their dream guy in their minds, sadly even real world princes are not that. Everywhere you look, people who are high atop the mountain of success are getting issues left and right. So the first thing you have to understand is that the world is not perfect.
So the right guy doesn't exist? Well, yes and no.
If you're definition of the right guy is the impossible fantasy that you see in movies, then no. In fact, if you do find a guy who seems that way, chances are, he saw that film too and that's why he is acting that way, but his true personality is somewhere hiding in the basement waiting to show itself when you have invested too much already in the relationship.
So if you want a guy who will love you and treat you right ( as best he can). Then you're blessed, because there are plenty of them on earth. You just gotta know how to find them.
*So first tip on reading the guy?
Don't give the guy points for his ACTIONS. Only grade his reactions (Mark Gungor)
What it means? Any guy can plan for the perfect date, but every domestic violence case and relationship or marital issue often have no place in the schedule, they just show up as REACTIONS.
So yes, watch him when he is driving to see how he reacts to "stupid people", cause at some point in time you will want something out of emotional desire which does not make sense to him, and you will find yourselves fighting between logical and emotional (if you love me then this VS you don't make sense)
Other implications?
Remember facebook? you probably have seen a post that is similar to " Love me for my personality and not for my appearance ". Right?
The same thing applies to guys.
You should not love them because of what they DO for you, but look at the kind of person they are. How they react to unexpected situations and around people they are comfortable with, (oftentimes family members) is pretty much how your married life is going to be like.
Married? What?!?!
(I kissed dating goodbye, Joshua Harris)
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Summary
(don't want to be judged on appearance? Don't give him points for what "appears" to be expressions of love, reactions are more revealing of the true self.)
